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December 13, 2004
lost and found: part 1
wow! this week 2 long-lost friends have found me! that is soooo cool!
six degrees of separation says we're related to everyone else in the world through six social ties, so i guess you can always find the person you are looking for. i grew up moving around every few years, and we didn't have email until i was in high school in london, and before then, my way of preserving these ties, should they be cut off, was making more links to individual relationships.
i have this habit of introducing friends to family members or other friends in my social circle, so in case that they do hit it off, i can always go back to these links to contact my friends. sometimes it backfires, where my friends think my cousins are more interesting and would rather spend time with them, than with me, or vice versa.
for example, aji, the highschool friend who mailed me this week after years of silence. i moved to london in 95, so in reality we only had about a year of school together. i introduced him to my family, he befriended my cousins, and during the holidays was a regular at my aunt's place. aji even lived in one of my dad's houses while the family was based in europe. you would think that i had all these different ways of getting in touch with him: old schoolmates, his family, my family. but we still lost touch.
when i was in jakarta last summer, i spread word through my extended family that i was looking for aji. i even tracked him down to his last know address which was in malang. no such luck. my cousins hadn't heard from him in months, i'd lost his family's number, the other highschool friend i had was not a friend of aji's and didn't know any contact info. i know i'd heard from him sometime, eventually, but it saddened me that we were no longer in direct contact.
the other guy who found me was andy nwoye. andy and i went to ravensbourneat around the same time for about a year, he graduated earlier, in 1998. now, andy is harder to find than aji. indonesian friends tend to be easier to track down, also because a lot of my indo friends are the children of my parents' friends.
i could really only find andy through college friends. i know about 4 links that would get me to andy:
yasmina >> johanna raupach, ex-ravensbourne, former housemate, viscom, london >> andy (maybe)
yasmina >> charlotte elfdahl, ex-ravensbourne, interior design, london >> richard piggott, ex-rave, broadcasting >> andy (maybe)
yasmina >> flemming lund, ex-rave, broadcasting, copenhagen >> person X from ravensbourne broadcasting school >> andy (maybe)
yasmina >> boris mang, ex-rave, broadcasting, berlin >> person X from ravensbourne broadcasting school< >> andy (maybe)
*note: the above schemes are perfect except i'm not really in touch with flem, boris, charlotte or johanna*
andy mailed me today and said he randomly google'd me after looking at some old college photos. he's at michigan state university *omfg, brrrr, cold* and he still remembered that i had a crush on his best friend, adrian. omg!
omg! adrian! i met him during a party at my old student house, and he came in from somewhere, drunk, collapsed on my bed and wrecked it. when we got to be friends afterwards, he was really embarrassed and sweet about it. haha, yay, adrian! i'm in touch with adrian again! thanks andy, love you loads, keep in touch ;)
p.s. just kidding, andy... and yes, i totally remember you, you cooked me dinner at your house, remember?
Posted by Yasmina at December 13, 2004 11:53 AM
